Why I decided to live by my own rules

Welcome to my very first post! I’m delighted that you’re here. If you’ve found this blog, it means you’re ready to make a change. There’s something in your life that you’ve always wanted to do, but you’ve been too scared or uncertain about how to make it happen. Well I’m telling you that you most definitely can make it happen. How can I be so certain?

Because I’ve done it myself. And if I can do it, so can you.

What’s my story?

Take a deep breath, it’s a long one…

So I was living in London, working at a job that to most people sounded like a dream: a good salary, business class travel to Africa, the Caribbean, or the Pacific, there was even a marble fireplace and chandelier in my office (I know, right?). From the outside, I had nothing to complain about.

But the job was draining the life out of me every day.

Despite its pleasant facade, the work environment was awful.  Everyone was miserable. I’d taken to wearing headphones at my desk to avoid getting drawn into the daily arguments erupting around me, some of which would descend into shouting matches.

I’d feel a pit of dread in my stomach every time I walked into the building.

It wasn’t my dream job, wasn’t even in an industry that I was particularly drawn to, but I stuck with it.

Because it was well-paid.

Because everyone else was also unhappy, and they hadn’t quit.

Because I got to travel now and again.

Because I managed to save money each month.

That didn’t turn out so well.

The constant stress and tension took its toll on my health. I was anxious, depressed, and eventually even simple activities like going grocery shopping would send my heart racing towards a panic attack. I was struggling to get out of bed each day, barely leaving the house. I wasn’t spending time with my friends, and even talking to them became too difficult and overwhelming.

That really sucked.

I knew that I’d made a mistake. Choosing to stay somewhere that made me miserable – just because other people thought it was an impressive job and lifestyle – struck me as being pretty darn stupid.

So I hatched a plan to escape.

For years, I’d been devouring blogs and books by and for “digital nomads” – people whose work is completely online and therefore location-independent. I loved the idea of working from my laptop while overlooking the ocean, travelling between hemispheres so I need never endure cold weather again, trading in the equivalent of one month’s rent in my tiny London studio for three months in a huge apartment overlooking mountains or volcanoes.

I’d wanted that lifestyle for so long, but never took any steps to make it a reality.

Well, I’d had enough. Life is too short to live by someone else’s rules, and it was time to start living life on my terms. Did I know what I was going to do to earn money online? No. Was my professional easily transferable to an online lifestyle? Not at all. Did I have any other skills that I could trade for cash over the internet? I was really hoping that I could uncover some. I was absolutely determined to make it happen.

Now it’s your turn.

I started this blog to inspire soul-searchers like you to take charge of your own life, to do that crazy ‘something’ that has been scratching away at the back of your mind for months or years or decades, to know that you don’t have to follow the conventional life path that your culture or community or society sets out for you. I’ll share the things that I did and still do on a daily basis to make sure I’m always moving in the right direction.

They say that you regret more the things that you didn’t do than the ones you did.

Here’s to living a life without regrets,


Trish xx

Life is not a practice run! Live by your own rules.

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  1. Saint Walker

    Hey Trish!
    I just found your blog via some circuitous route from some pedagogy site or other, then realised we used to work together for a stint at Creative Skillset! I’m running a VFX degree course in Norwich these days. (I think you left first!) Great blog- well done.
    Keep up the inspirational work!

    • Trish Mossman

      Hey, Saint, so lovely to hear from you! I was thinking of you recently…I’m planning to create an online course and was wishing that I could still swivel around and chat to you. Thanks for the kind words. If you pop in to London in the next couple of months, I’d love to take you out for a coffee!


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